Thursday, May 11, 2006

  Magical Land Of My Own
Enid Blyton (1897-1968)



This lady here has always been my all-time favourite author of children's books. I honestly grew up reading her books during my early years in primary school. She wrote about 40 storybooks and I can say confidently that I've read at least half of them. And it was from her books that I developed an interest in reading and eventually moved on to conquer books by other writers.

I had many of her books. I used the past tense cause I've given them away to charity homes, as well as to my Ah-boy, over the past few years. But I still have one left. And yes, this book is my ultimate favourite. That's why I couldn't bear to give it away. This morning, bored from waiting to pick up my "The Da Vinci Code" from the bookstore (it was out of stock yesterday) this afternoon and from having no book to read after finishing "The Chronicles of Narnia", I reread the old book again!

Digression: Come to think about it, it is not entirely true when I said that I've no book to read. Cause I haven't read the "The Lord of the Rings" trilogy yet, which is still lying on my bookshelf, already turning yellow with age. My sister bought the entire series including "The Hobbit" ages ago when the 1st movie was released and had since finished them all. And yes, she's forever nagging me to read the entire series too as she thinks that reading is the best habit ever. I do feel that she is true and I AM trying to pick up my reading habit again. But several times I've tried reading the LOTR series and I couldn't never get past the first few chapters of "The Hobbit" without feeling bored to death. HA. But I'll bravely try again after I finish the Dan Brown book. Never say die.

And I was once again welcomed to the world of the Enchanted Wood and the Faraway Tree, along with the folks living on the tree itself. The Faraway Tree is an enchanted tree that is enormous enough for folks to live on it. And by folks, I meant no ordinary folks like us, but talking squirrels, goblins, brownies, pixies and so on! The coolest thing of all about this magical tree is that it reaches so high into the sky, into the clouds, that at the very top of the tree, there is a magical land which moves away after a few days, to be replaced by another land that arrives there soon after.

There are all sorts of magical lands. There is the Land of Secrets where there lives wise people who know every single secret there is on earth and if you go there, you can know any secret that you want to. Well, Bush will probably want to go there. Then he can ask if Iran is really hiding weapons of mass destruction from USA. PAP can go there and check if Gomez was really lying. Me? Eh I don't wanna know anyone's secret or secret about anything else. I just hope that there isn't anyone out there who is interested in my secret. *shudder* Ok la, I might as well admit my secret first: I've a phobia for butterflies (disgusting fluttery creatures! yikes!).

Then there is also the Land of Enchantments where you can buy any sort of enchantment. A potion to make you more beautiful. A spell to make the girl yours. Anything you want. As long as you have the money cause things are blardy expensive there. And then there exists the Land of Know-alls as well which houses 5 Know-alls, who are extremely wise and know everything. You can ask them anything and they will tell you the answer or solution. I've a sudden urge to ask them who will win World Cup this year at Germany. And I bet everyone would love the Land of Tea Parties where you can go up there and just eat for FREE. Yes, FOC. Singaporeans' fave la. HA. And there is simply everything delicious like jellies and ice cream and cakes. Eh, no leh, no abalone or my favourite shark's fin. I don't guess they serve Chinese delicacies yet. But they do have this machine up there that you can simply say to it anything that you want to it, press a button and then presto! you've it. 酷毙了 right? I would want one of that.

Then I started thinking wildly and thought, What magical land would I want to go to? I looked at all the Lands mentioned in the book and thought that they were mainly nice (though some were horrid) but too normal still. I would want something that is unique to me. Then it came to me.

Yes, the Land of Hunks.

Wah. Not bad right. HOHOHO.

Imagine if I had many hunks to look at. Ya, what else do you think I want the hunks to do? Feed me grapes like some Queen Cleopatra? Pole dance for me? Eh, massage me? Sounds a bit gross hahah. I just want to be invisible in a land full of hunks! You know, just like that Clay Aiken song, "If I was invisible, then I could just watch you in your room. If I was invisible, I'd make you mine tonight." hahah a bit perv. But I would just be satisfied to watch numerous hunks just doing their own normal daily stuff, like lazing around, sleeping, swimming, bathing. Opps, did I just say that out loud?! HOHOHO.

Michael Jackson wouldn't want any of this Land though. I think he would prefer the Land of Little Boys. HOHOHO.


 
Wednesday, May 10, 2006

  To Narnia and back

Hurrays! For I've finally finished the entire series of "The Chronicles of Narnia"! Which is a blardy big book of 767 pages consisting of 7 separate novels and weighs a ton! Not a chore to read though as all the stories are truly interesting and out of this world. It's quite like the Harry Potter series really, with all the magic and good fighting evil, except that there isn't really many magicians but more of talking animals, and things took place in old-day England.


But to tell the truth, this poor book has been lying on my table for ages, gathering dust as the last time I touched it was when the Disney movie "The Lion, the Witch and the Wardrobe" was screened quite a while ago and I busied myself reading the first 2 stories "The Magician's Nephew" and "The Lion, the Witch and the Wardrobe" in an attempt to get the whole picture correct after watching the movie. As the same goes for all movies taken from good books, while the movie might be an enjoyable visual experience, the book itself is always a much clearer picture. If you have watched the "Harry Potter" movies and read the books, you'll find that the books have much more details and more characters that were left out in the movies as it would be mission impossible for the director to adhere to the book completely. In fact, for the last HP movie "The Goblet of Fire", while I thoroughly enjoyed the atmosphere of the movie and its effects, the movie was almost a flop and almost incomprehensible had one not read the book beforehand.

Luckily these few days, all I've on my hand is time and I've finally given the book the attention it well deserves. To sum it all up, "The Chronicles of Narnia", written by C.S. Lewis, a classic of children's literature, present the adventures of children who play central roles in the unfolding history of the realm of Narnia, a place where animals talk, magic is common and the bad is always trying to harm the good, all in futile attempts, while the good eventually kick all their asses. Written by Lewis between 1950 and 1956, "The Chronicles of Narnia" contains Christian themes and borrows from Greek and Roman mythology as well as traditional British and Irish fairy tales.

In fact, "The Chronicles of Narnia" contain many allusions to Christian ideas which can be easily picked up by the reader, unless like me, you are a non-Christian who knows nuts about the Bible. I'd to read up to the last story "The Last Battle" when it gradually dawned to me that Aslan, the Great Lion, the Mighty One in the stories, might be, holly golly, God or Jesus. And that all the children from the previous stories came back to Narnia although Aslan told them that they couldn't come anymore because of their ages, probably because they have all died. And indeed, bloody hell, it was true. They had all died in a train crash and had finally been allowed entry into Narnia, which was probably Heaven. And yes, Aslan was not God, but his son Jesus. *faint*


After I finished the last page, I went to my sis who had been nagging me to finish the entire book since I'm so free, and said to her, "Walau, Aslan is Jesus ah?". My sister laughed in glee cause she knew that I would despise that type of ending and nodded her head. How I was feeling then is like eating a very crunchy and juicy big fat red apple happily and then finding a worm inside the core. Ya, I kinda felt cheated because I hate it when people try to sell me their religion, especially Christians preaching me to go to their church events. So to read a really good book and then finding at its end an ending that involves Christianity kinda sucks. Don't tell me that I'll find at the end of the last book of J.K. Rowling that Albus Dumbledore didn't die and in fact he is God himself and is just resting in Heaven.

However, after the initial shock of learning the truth about Aslan (which, to be fair, is not really an allegorical representation of Christ, but more of a literal representation of Christ, in another body, in another universe, and by another name), actually I didn't mind so much of the ending anymore as the books told a fantastic tale of adventure, colour, and mythological ideas like the Fauns, the Dryads, the Centaurs and the dwarfs. And boy, growing up reading fairytales by Enid Blyton, I love mythical creatures even though they don't exist (but you will never really know for sure). Somehow they work wonders on my soul, never failing to make me light-hearted and young, though for no apparent reasons.


And it is interesting to know that C.S. Lewis was a good friend of J.R.R. Tolkien, best known as the author of "The Hobbit" and its sequel "The Lord Of The Rings" as they were both part of the Inklings which was a literary discussion group associated with the University of Oxford. Both survived the second world war and subsequently wrote brillant novels which proceeded on to take the world by storm decades later. 果然是时势造英雄。In present days, no such series has emerged, maybe except for J.K. Rowling's "Harry Potter" series. And yeah, I've read all of that so far! Up to the "The Half-Blood Prince"!

My next book? "The Da Vinci Code" by Dan Brown. I know, I know. How 2003. But well, I'm slow what. Haven't read it yet cause it had looked heavy. But the movie's coming up real soon and it kinda sparked the interest in me to read it before the movie screens. Just in case I wanna catch the movie too. Afterall, like what my sis (who had read the book ages ago) said, "It's such a hot book. Bestseller leh. Must read la or else very kuku." HA.
 
Tuesday, May 09, 2006

  Tribute to Mothers' Day
Mothers' Day is coming this Sunday and I thought that I'll do a tribute to all the great mums out there (definitely inclusive of my own) by posting this story that I've found online.



Being A Mother (author unknown)


After 21 years of marriage, my wife wanted me to take another woman out to dinner and a movie. She said, "I love you, but I know this other woman loves you too, and she would love to spend some time with you."

The other woman that my wife wanted me to visit was my MOTHER, who has been a widow for 19 years, but the demands of my work and my three children had made it possible to visit her only occasionally.

That night I called to invite her to go out for dinner and a movie.

"What's wrong, are you well?" she asked. My mother was the type of woman who suspected that a late night call or a surprise invitation is a sign of bad news.

"I thought that it would be pleasant to spend some time with you," I responded. "Just the two of us."

She thought about it for a moment, and then said, "I would like that very much."

That Friday after work, as I drove over to pick her up, I was a bit nervous. When I arrived at her house, I noticed that she, too, seemed to be nervous about our date. She waited in the door with her coat on. She had curled her hair and was wearing the dress that she had worn to celebrate her last wedding anniversary. She smiled from a face that was as radiant as an angel's.

"I told my friends that I was going to go out with my son, and they were impressed," she said, as she got into the car. "They can't wait to hear about our meeting."

We went to a restaurant that, although not elegant, was very nice and cozy. My mother took my arm as if she were the First Lady. After we sat down, I had to read the menu. Her eyes could only read large print. Half way through the entries, I lifted my eyes and saw Mom sitting there staring at me. A nostalgic smile was on her lips.

"It was I who used to have to read the menu when you were small," she said.

"Then it's time that you relax and let me return the favor," I responded.

During the dinner, we had an agreeable conversation - nothing extraordinary but catching up on recent events of each other's life. We talked so much that we missed the movie. As we arrived at her house later, she said, "I'll go out with you again, but only if you let me invite you." I agreed.

"How was your dinner date?" asked my wife when I got home.

"Very nice. Much more so than I could have imagined," I answered.

A few days later, my mother died of a massive heart attack. It happened so suddenly that I didn't have a chance to do anything for her. Some time later, I received an envelope with a copy of a restaurant receipt from the same place mother and I had dined. An attached note said: "I paid this bill in advance. I wasn't sure that I could be there; but nevertheless, I paid for two plates - one for you and the other for your wife. You will never know what that night meant for me. I love you, son."

At that moment, I understood the importance of saying in time: "I LOVE YOU" and to give our loved ones the time that they deserve. Nothing in life is more important than your family. Give them the time they deserve, because these things cannot be put off till "some other time”.


**** The End ****
 
Sunday, May 07, 2006

  Something trivial
Expect to see Mr 刘德华 going "霍霍霍霍 霍霍霍霍!!" during Channel U's "SUPERBAND" show tomorrow night!

Yes, Qi;Nobe (使诺鼻) is doing Jay Chou's "霍元甲" for QF4, which I believe is recorded today. Ahhhh but I thought Brods might do it since they performed "One Night In Beijing" last QF and the falsetto was beautifully executed. I thought Bryan might perform the opera part in "霍元甲" well too. HA. But well, Qi;Nobe is also one of my fave groups in the show, and perhaps one of the most exciting. "霍元甲" should be some performance worth anticipating too.


Now everybody, c'mon, 大家一起来: 霍霍霍霍 霍霍霍霍!!!


 
Saturday, May 06, 2006

  Three Taboos
If there is anything that you should never discuss with me, unless of course you agree with my point of view as I'm terribly obstinate and won't listen if you think differently, there are actually three: politics, religion and homosexuality.

The first one has been getting on my nerves for the past week. Yes, I did enjoy the experience of voting and I did vote this afternoon. In fact, the poll results are coming out in less than an hour' time as I'm typing here. And I like the hype that the GE has generated among the people. There usually isn't much to be excited about in Singapore but the rallies held over the past week were well-received by the people and were crowded machiam like some superstar concerts. HA. The Hougang one was particularly spectacular. The crowd it drew was overwhelming if you've seen for yourself or on newspapers/internet. And the traffic jams it caused at the Hougang area were furious! Traffic jams at 10pm! How about that?! Maybe LTA should have put ERP there to curb the crowd and earn helluva money in the process as well.

I didn't go to any of the rallies. And damn, I don't need to. I've rallies at home every bloody day. Yes, on the PAP side, you have my dearest mummy as the spokesperson, and my dad represents the WP. Voting is secret but you don't need a brain to guess who they voted for respectively this afternoon. I bet all my neighbours know by now. And I dunno if the rallies at the stadiums started sharply every night but the rallies in my house start every day punctually the moment the news start and begin broadcasting news on the GE. Four words to describe my past week: 不得安宁. And I make sure that I never even whisper anything on the GE when I'm around my dad cause it'll only fire off his views on the current government and the political scene. Damn, I love my dad but I'll gladly save his thoughts on politics for another day. Like the day when I become deaf. *touch wood*

And politics is ugly. Fugly. As usual. The Gomez incident almost drew blood out of me. I do think that Gomez is a liar. And a stupid liar at that. But I must have seen that damn video at least 50 times on the news. The morning news, the afternoon news and the evening news ALL showed that. Repeatedly. You don't need an idiot to know what that idiot had done so you don't have to show us that video over and over again. And over and over again. Unless of course the news people think that Singaporeans are idiots. Well, some of us are, I admit.

And what's up with the suing thing? "Sue me la" is like the fave phrase in this GE. Yes, yes, our MM is a lawyer who sues every single person who slanders him and some have gone bankrupted as a result. But randomly saying "tell him to sue me lor" is so damn childish. Like those Ah Bengs who 看不爽 each other and saying 看什么看,不爽打我啦!And the sarcasm in most of the politicians when they commented on their competitors. Walau, I can't stand it. Politics is not for a hermit like me. I'm not 政治冷淡. I know who to support and why, so I do find all these rallies, speeches and stuff on the GE unnecessary and boring.

Luckily it's finally OVER. Bloody hell, what a boring week. Goodbye to the days where I flip open the newspapers to find half of it on the GE, or watch the news and spend 30 minutes listening to the same stuff.

As for religion and homosexuality, I got very irritated lately after reading Colin's and Kero's blog. In case you dunno, well, these two young boys became quite famous on the internet recently after starting this blog together, not as two good friends, but as a gay couple. I began reading their blog after funny guy Kenny Sia recommended it as "Brokeback Bloggers - definitely not for the conservatives. Personally I find it an entertaining and interesting read." They definitely weren't what I expected. Whatever I'd expected, it was definitely not two 17-year-old teenagers coming forth with their relationship. They are so open of their relationship that I'm actually quite taken aback. Come on, admit it, we are still a pretty conservative society. There are so many homophobes on the streets spewing hatred for the homosexuals (though not many of them dare to come out in the open and express such feelings. they do so cowardly on the internet as anonymous or hidden behind virtual identities.). To come forth with their relationship, I did hope that these 2 young boys, younger than my little sis, were bracing themselves for the negative comments to come.

And hell did the nasty comments come. Avalanche in fact. And when I said that I got very irritated lately after reading the boys' blog, I meant irritation at the homophobes. They were downright mean and despicable. Hidden behind their virtual identities as Blogger.com bloggers, they have been slamming hard and inhumanly on these 2 young boys, and making it sound like a "sin" to be homosexuals. By what fucking law is it a sin? If this idea itself isn't ridiculous enough, the homophobes have to pull in a particular religion and its divine laws to "support" their basis.

I have no religion. If there's any, it's the religion of believing in oneself and the good in (almost) everything. I'm brought up lidat. It's not because I don't see the good in a religion, but I wasn't introduced to and brought up according to the beliefs of any particular religion. For one, my parents are not strong followers of any religion though they do go to Chinese temples to pray. And so, I'm a free thinker. Who respects all forms of religions as long as they are reasonable. And their followers don't preach to me about their religion like some flies that you can't swat away.

But I detest it when people wrongly use their religion, their divine laws to rebut things that are "supposed" to be wrong "according to" their religion. Like homosexuality. They say that their God believes that homosexuality is sinful. *snorts* Did they ask their God personally?! Did he sit in a big armchair in his office and tell them face-to-face, to put down all homosexuals?! If he is holy, he will not do such unholy thing like condemning. Bullshit. Yes, I am very angry because I don't understand why we are all humans and they are tearing at some others' necks just because of their sexual orientation, which is really none of their business. The homosexuals are not even asking them to watch them fuck. Why are they so bothered about others' business when they should be doing more good like volunteer work instead according to their holy laws.

Don't use your religion to rebut homosexuality cause you are only disgracing your own religion which you do not truly understand but stupidly think that you do. And do not use science too. I've seen spastic people say spastic stuff like "Male by birth, man by choice", "there's no gay gene", "no one is born gay". I spent more than half of my life studying science so I do think that I know more science than those idiots. Homosexuals are born lidat. If they have a choice, if they really have, I think they would rather be born heterosexual so as to avoid being treated as social rejects by the many homophobes. While both you and they can do nothing to change their sexual orientation, why not just stand in their shoes and accept them? What harm does it do you? What joy do you get from insulting them? WHAT IS THIS WORLD COMING TO?!

Yes, I support gay rights. No gay friends but I support gay rights. To me, gays are just humans. Gay rights = human rights. As simple as that. If you hate them, just think about why. Is it a good reason? If you don't have a good reason, I'm not asking you to like them, to support their rights, but can you just not hate them?

This is something interesting I found on the internet:

Are you a homophobe? If you are, you probably use the Bible to justify your hatred of gays and lesbians.

But do you obey all the commandments of God and Jesus yourself? Here are some divine laws you probably transgress frequently:

1. You must not do any work on the seventh day, the Sabbath, from sundown Friday to sundown Saturday. (Exodus 20:8-11)

2. You must not eat pork, clams, oysters, shrimps, or rare steaks. (Leviticus 11:7,12; 19:26)

3. You must not cut the hair on the sides of your head, or trim the edges of your beard. (Leviticus 19:27)

4. You must not charge interest on loans to your countrymen. (Deuteronomy 23:20)

5. You must not pray in public. (Matthew 6:5-6)

6. You must give to everyone who begs from you; and when someone takes your things, don't ask for them back. (Luke 6:30)

Many homophobes say they do not have to live by the laws of the Old Testament, only those mentioned in the New. They quote Paul to justify judging gays. Yet Jesus himself said: "Do not think that I came to abolish the law..." (Matthew 5:17)

If you still think you are holier than gays and lesbians, here's what Jesus says about you:
"Don't pass judgment, so you won't be judged. Don't forget, the judgment you hand out will be the judgment you get back. And the standard you use will be the standard used on you. Why do you notice the speck in your neighbor's eye, but overlook the timber in your own? How can you say to your neighbor, "Let me get the speck out of your eye, when there is that timber in your own? You phony, first take the timber out of your own eye and then you'll see well enough to remove the speck from your neighbor's eye." (Matthew 7:1-5 Scholars Version)

Jesus also said:"You must love your neighbor as yourself." (Matthew 19:19; 22:39; Mark 12:31; Luke 10;27; Romans 13:9; Galatians 5:14; James 2:8)


I have nothing against this religion. Just like how most homosexuals have nothing against the followers of this religion. Why do many homophobes use this religion to support their condemn for homosexuals when their Bible did not even tell them to? Here's another interesting find.

I've my own stand in many aspects and I hold on firmly to my own principles. I would be lying if I said that it's not tiring sometimes, especially when my thinkings don't fit me into the majority. But it's silly if I change myself just to fit in, isn't it? Who needs to fit in anyway? I'm one proud misfit. HA.


=== Side note ===
This is one blardy long entry and by the time I finished it, ALL the poll results were out and PAP won in my GRC as expected. I've lived here all my life so far and I would say that they deserve it.
 
Friday, May 05, 2006

  My Bodyguard
"Bodyguard" (2003), a Korean drama serial shown on Channel U every weekday at 6pm, is my current favourite drama on tv. In fact, with all the “宝莲灯”,“至尊红颜”, “郎才女貌” in which I'm all NOT interested, this Korean comedy currently is the only drama that rocks my world. So funny that there never seems to be anything interesting to watch on tv once after the exams.


The story talks about Hong Kyung Tak (played by Cha Seung Won) who is a healthy and warm-hearted guy who comes back home from the army. He has no direction in life until he enters the bodyguard profession at the suggestion of Song Il Gook, the president of KBB Security Company. As a bodyguard, his actions speak for his words, and he cannot stand still when a mishap happens. Therefore, when Song tries to ruin a politician's career with a bribe, Cha quits KBB and moves to his friend's new security company, Il Pyun Dan Shim. Meanwhile, Han Go Eun, a fellow bodyguard at KBB falls in love with the warm-hearted Cha, and rejects the love of Song, a cold-hearted guy who does anything for money. Cha's younger sister, Mya, finds a new friend in Lim Eun Kyung, a girl who moves into the neighborhood with her old grandmother. Although Cha always cares for Lim as a younger sister, Lim begins to like Cha as a guy and becomes jealous of Han. When the grandmother dies, Lim moves in with Mya's family, but also finds out that she is the illegitimate daughter of a powerful politician who is running for president. In this upcoming presidential election, Lim's father and the politician for whom Cha is bodyguarding, are at stand against eachother. Behind the scenes, Lim's father works numerous murders with Song's father. In this exciting but dangerous world as a bodyguard, Cha must not only protect his politician, but the lives of Lim, his family, and friends.

While the storyline is a ideal mixture of romance, comedy, heart-warming family ties and action, it absolutely helps that Cha Seung Won (My Teacher, Mr Kim) was in it.


It helps that he is tall (1.88m!), handsome and plays an excellent comedic role. Oh ya, did I mention his fantastic physique? And he's 35. Excellent. I love older men.



Man, I wish he's MY bodyguard. Ya, just wish on. I know. HA.



=== Side note ===
If there's anything I love about having a blog, it's the way I can put up photos of drool-inducing hunks and just drool shamlessly over them. HA. Ya, I'm a 色狼.

 

  AskMen.com
I was checking on the alpha female thingy online yesterday when I found this interesting website: AskMen.com which is a free online magazine for men, although I think that it would be an interesting read for ladies too. There are articles like "6 Things Women Want To Change About Men", "10 Things Men Think Women Like" and "9 Signs She's Not Into You". I would go check them out later. They might serve as interesting topics for my blog! HA.

6 Signs You're Dating An Alpha Female


She's on top of her dating game. She is obstinate, conceited and doesn't make it easy for you to pick her up. She gives you a run for your money and makes you work overtime on her, so to speak. But all this only makes her more appealing to you. She is, in other words, the quintessential "alpha female." The alpha female has an uncanny ability to make men chase her. Her talent is very distinct from that of the "alpha male", a man whose aptitude for chasing women is finely tuned. But the alpha female's talents are special, and consequently, chasing her might be your biggest dating challenge yet.

So how can you tell if she's an alpha female? Below are six dead giveaways along with strategies to deal with her sneaky alpha tactics. In addition to the tips below, there is only one more thing you need to remember when pursuing a woman who knows her way around the dating game: Keep your cool. An alpha female can smell fear.


1. She acts unimpressed by your romantic gestures. An alpha female is used to men chasing her, so don't be surprised if cliché gifts like flowers and chocolate don't impress her. Remember this: Her expectations are higher than most women's, so you will have to be a little more original to get her attention.

How to counteract it: Try writing her a personalized letter and leaving it on her windshield, for example. Or make her lunch and bring it to her at work. Whatever it is, be different. If she still acts unimpressed, do continue to make kind gestures, but don't go overboard. This type of woman is used to men going crazy for her, and you will stand out more if you can keep your cool.



2. She continues to date other men. Clearly, she doesn't want to commit. The alpha woman always has several men on the go and likes to keep her options open.

How to counteract it: The only way to deal with her wandering eyes is to do the same. In other words, fight fire with fire and continue to date other women until you discuss otherwise.



3. She's hard to reach. The alpha female is a busy woman, or at least she is very talented at making you believe that. She likes to have you at her beck and call and wants you to work around her schedule.

How to counteract it: Don't become the last-minute, just-in-case guy -- that won't earn you any respect in the long term. Make sure she realizes that you have your own commitments by not working entirely around her schedule. Do continue to pursue her if you think you have a shot, but be casual when you call. And definitely don't call more than twice before she calls you back.


4. She insists on paying her share of the bill. If she always insists on going Dutch, she might be pulling one of her fancy alpha tricks. Why? Because if you never treat her, she'll never owe you anything.

How to counteract it: Continue to offer to pay on dates, but if she seems adamant about paying her share, don't insist. If you want to avoid the whole awkward bill-splitting moment, tell her you'll take her to your "secret spot" and bring along a picnic to surprise her.


5. She is demanding. She continuously asks you for favors and you are eager to do them for her. Sound familiar? The alpha female is used to having men pursue her and give in to her every whim. But as tempting as it might be to jump every time she tells you to, do not allow yourself to become her puppy dog.

How to counteract it: Keep your dignity and do only what you feel is within reason. You will earn yourself far more respect in the long run if you don't jump through all the hoops she sets out for you.



6. She is sarcastic and condescending to you. If she constantly talks down to you and makes rude or mocking remarks, you need to defend your honor and fight back with equally witty comments. You never know what the alpha female might say, so you always have to be "on" and ready for verbal combat.

How to counteract it: Use a negative hit only when absolutely necessary (something mildly but not overly insulting). This will throw her off balance and threaten her feelings of control. However, if your exchanges are consistently negative and disrespectful, you're probably better off moving on; you shouldn't have to put up with her abuse.



Make one important distinction clear in your mind: An alpha female might not call you back very often and she may date other men, but she will show you strong, intermittent signs that she is interested to encourage you to continue pursuing her. Do not mix this up with a woman who is showing few or no signs that she's interested. In other words, know when to stop trying and walk away.


hahah anyone still interested in dating alpha females? Her antics sound ridiculous to me.

 
Thursday, May 04, 2006

  Alpha-ness

This is so interesting. Someone just commented that I'm alpha, an alpha female. Ahhh am I? I have never thought of myself this way. Now what's an "alpha female" anyway? In the past, the term "alpha male" would have been more recognised: "applied to humans, apparently denotes physical prowess, high achievement, bullying and sexual attraction. It is not an entirely flattering term, calling to mind the aggressive chest-beating of a silverback gorilla, but perfectly describes someone who bends others to his will." To put it simply, machiam like King Kong la.

But in recent years, the concept of "alpha female", both in the human and animal social contexts, is emerging. And basically, the alpha female is quite the female version of the alpha male. So duh right? HA. If we look at the context of social animals such as the primates and elephants, according to Wikipedia, "the alpha male or alpha female is the individual in the community whom the others follow and defer to." On the other hand, in the human context, if we base alpha female on the male model, we will find her in the boardroom, impersonating his bullying and overriding ambition. Sexuality plays a big part in alpha male's success, and probably plays such a part in the alpha female too, who is likely to be a tremendous flirt and spends a lot of effort on her appearance. Now, here's where I don't fit in. Friends on closer terms would know that I'm hardly a flirt. I don't even socialise with guys in the first place. I'm kinda aloof to them. 排男 is my attitude ever since uni. It means 排斥男人 hahah. Though I think that my aloofness towards the male species might be what makes me kinda alpha too. HA.

So anyway back to the topic, there are very few alpha females of this order, since most women have had the alpha-male qualities conditioned out of them and have been steered towards nurturing roles rather than world domination. Alpha female is described to be pretty exceptional. There are not a whole lot of people trying to be like her, whereas there are a lot of men behaving in the same way, clambering over each other to reach the top of the tree. Those women who do get to the top are mavericks, hybrids and deny that they are like other women. Women do not like alpha female very much, nor do they want to be like her. Women want to be liked, which holds them back.



Well, I would like to be liked. Won't you, regardless of your sex/gender? But most of the time, I don't care if I'm liked anot. I know that my personality is not very likeable. I am close to being obstinate and adhere to my own principles closely. And by doing so, sometimes it means that I don't fit into the crowd but who gives a fuck. At least I don't. I don't need to fit into any crowd. I don't follow. I lead my own life. I don't hold myself back from doing something just cause I think that this action won't be liked by others. Neither will I do something cause I think that people will like me more if I do so. As long as 对得起天地良心, 对得起父母, I'll go ahead. And if this is alpha, then well, good, I'm alpha.

Of course, there are people who see alpha female as inhuman. Quoted from somewhere: "Alpha female, like alpha male, depends on such a sense of innate superiority that she's probably not aware of her status (You mean like me? hohoho). Achievement is the focus of alpha female's life; anything else is secondary. She does not obsess about relationships. She is dominant. While she would be effortlessly talented and capable, she would need a reduced capacity for empathy, because otherwise it would derail her." Teh. Teh. Teh. All wrong. Achievements mean nothing to me. Or I would have worked myself much harder in uni to get a 1st class honours / join CCAs in uni to have a wonderful CCA record. The truth is, I don't give a damn. All my achievements so far are only based on one simple logic: I do what I like and I do best in what I like. And my relationships mean the world to me. And believe me anot, my empathy is much more than what I seem like. I'm not that stupid XX bitch who wrote an entire bloody useless entry on how it's "worthless" to to be empathetic because of some "survival of the fittest" law which she has misunderstood.

There's an theory on the alpha female which states that the model is entirely different, embodying the best female qualities rather than aping the male. And if one turns to nature for clues, the elephant society is a good example - a matriarchy, led by the biggest, strongest female, perceived as wise and kind, which keeps the group together. This model of alpha female has different qualities from the male: she shares his leadership and strength, but also promotes community. She is a woman of substance, who combines physical potency with seriousness of purpose. Motherhood is essential to alpha female's humanity: she is mature and connected. Even so, she is not hampered or compromised by motherhood in any way.

In the human context, the alpha female make an impact by the way they live their lives. In their sexual identity, in the way they construct their domestic lives, they strive to be true to themselves. If they are confrontational, it is not for its own sake, but to say: 'This is what I am.' They acknowledge their own complexities. Alpha males do not go down that route. Alpha male is driven by insecurity and fear: aware that there are many similar males climbing the ladder behind him, he clings to old-fashioned hierarchies and may soon become redundant. "Alpha male is such a male concept," says Julia Peyton-Jones, director of the Serpentine Gallery. "It's not a term you would apply to women. Women can be as powerful as men, but to call them alpha females would be limiting. On the whole, women have to be more inventive and they have the skills to get what they want without being so crude about it." Hey man, if it's according to this model, I jolly don't mind being an alpha female. Sounds wholly good to me. HA.


So do I think that I'm an alpha female? If being an alpha female means to understand yourself, to have a mind of your own, to be confident and not to care about what others think, to stand up for yourself against others, then well I am one. And anyway I don't specifically despise males. You can be a girl and if you don't have a mind of your own, well I won't think too highly of you too. But it's true that I don't like to see myself at lower ranks than males. I don't like the sexual sterotyping. Though I won't purposely compete against guys most of the time, I do find it satisfactory when my grades were better than most guys, or I ran faster than most guys in my class, or better at ball games. HA. Okok, alpha, I know. But alpha or not alpha, I do think that it's important that one knows what one is living for. Afterall, an average Singaporean lives up to 80 years. You don't wanna spend the remaining 5, 6 decades or so living like a zombie, do you? Take this coming GE as an example, those who get to vote should think clearly and carefully who you want to vote for and why. We are adults in our 20s already. Surely you can process your own thoughts properly and make your own decisions already. Sure, you can anyhow vote for one and even do a void, it's not illegal, but I'm sure that we are all mature enough to do something as simple as voting.

Anyway all these brought to my mind an old song by Christina Aguilera, "Can't Hold Us Down", so I guess I'll finally end this long post with this:

So what am I not supposed to have an opinion
Should I be quiet just because I'm a woman
Call me a bitch cos I speak what's on my mind
Guess it's easier for you to swallow if I sat and smiled
So what am I not supposed to say what I'm saying
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Are you offended by the message I'm bringing
Call me whatever cos your words don't mean a thing
Guess you ain't even a man enough to handle what I sing
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If you look back in history
It's a common double standard of society
The guy gets all the glory the more he can score
While the girl can do the same and yet you call her a whore

 
Wednesday, May 03, 2006

  Eight Below


Yesterday I caught the movie "Eight Below" with my sis. My sis was the one who really wanted to warch that. I wasn't planning to watch that somehow. Just like I didn't have the urge to watch "Penguin March" in the cinema when the famous film was released quite some while ago. Although I do think that both sled dogs and emperor penguins are cute. Maybe I figured that it wouldn't be too exciting to see 8 dogs running about on snow and not talking human, nor thousands of penguins waddling about on ice though 3 of the penguins did freaking talk human language. Alas, just as I was wrong about the penguins (I did catch "Penguin March" on vcd months later), I was also wrong about the dogs.

Inspired by a true story, "Eight Below" is an action-adventure about loyalty and the bonds of friendship set in the extreme wilderness of Antarctica. The film tells the story of three members of a scientific expedition: Jerry Shepard (played by Paul Walker), his best friend, Cooper, and a rugged American geologist, who are forced to leave behind their team of eight beloved sled dogs due to a sudden accident and perilous weather conditions in Antarctica. During the harsh, Antarctic winter, the dogs must struggle for survival alone in the intense frozen wilderness for over 6 months.



The Alaskan huskies COMPLETELY stole the limelight. Not only were they lovely in appearance, all fluffy and cuddly, they were even better actors/actresses than any of the humans in the movie. And they didn't even talk. All they had to do was a look, a bark, a nod or a nudge at each other, and you knew what they were trying to imply, how they felt. It was amazing. Just watching the dogs look after each other was enough to use up a few pieces of Kleenex.

And it is especially intriguing to know that such a wonderful dog that will really work itself to death, the Alaskan husky, is not even a so-called pure breed and is not recognized by any major kennel club. It falls short of being a breed in that there is no preferred type and no restriction as to ancestry. It is defined only by its purpose, which is that of a highly efficient sled dog. In fact, the Alaskan is the sled dog of choice for world-class dog sled racing competition and none of the pure bred northern breeds can match it for sheer racing speed. A top-level racing lead dog can bring a freaking sum of US $10,000-15,000. How's that for a non pure?! But if you ask me, I would gladly keep a Alaskan husky like beautiful Maya here any day!


And the film's actually quite educational too. Shows you the breath-taking landscape of the Antartica continent and some of the local biological diversity. If there's one thing which I've learnt from watching this film, it is to never mess with a leopard seal. Like what Jerry said in the film, "they are more leopards, than seals". How bloody true. The only time when I was completely caught off-guard and had a brief shock was when the stupid leopard seal popped out from the sea through a huge hole in the carcass of the killer whale, to say "hello" to one of the huskies, Max. Except that its "hello" and the snarl on its face looked more like "I'm going to tear you apart and eat you!". Oh, or maybe that's what it was trying to say.

Sua-ku me had never known how a leopard seal would be like before watching "Eight Below". And I'm too bloody used to the cutesy sealions in the Singapore zoo, that perform at their own animal shows, can do acts and even clap their flippers. I don't think that our zoo has any seals in fact. But well, bloody hell, I would take a sealion any day as compared to a leopard seal that's no way near cute. Even a leopard still looks cute, though it might bite off my head if it is hungry.



Here are some interesting facts about the Leopard Seal (Hydrurga leptonyx):

Population: 250,000 individuals
Location: Antarctic waters
Size: Up to 10 ft long
Weight: Up to 750 lbs
Diet: Penguins, fish, squid, & krill
Habitat: Pack ice in summer, island coasts in winter

* The Leopard seal is the largest of the true Antarctic seals.
* Leopard Seals are the only seals that eat other seals.
* Leopard seals have a excellent senses of sight and smell under water.
* Leopard seals catch penguins by their feet and then beat them back and forth on the surface of the water until the penguin falls out of its skin. Then, they eat the carcass. (How svetle. puke.)


And how can I fail to mention the only true human eye candy of the 2 hours: Paul Walker.

I would also gladly take him in any day. ;P

 
Tuesday, May 02, 2006

  至尊红颜
“是女人霸道,还是男人无能?”

This is the tag line of the "至尊红颜" trailer.

To which me and my sis replied in unison, “是男人无能!”



Well, but this is what the 霸道女人 said. =P


 
Monday, May 01, 2006

  My own space.
Recently, I've been thinking a lot about getting a place of my own to stay in the future, say when I'm 30. Currently 23 and single, I honestly don't see myself getting married, settling down and starting a family of my own. It all seems so foreign. So that day, I asked my mum a bit awkwardly cause I was scared that she wouldn't approve, "Mummy, 以后我三十岁还嫁不出去的话,我可以搬出去自己住吗?"

Quite surprisingly, my mum replied heartily, "当然可以啦!如果你有钱的话,还可以买 private leh, 像 Annie 姐姐一样。" I should never underestimate my mum's 开通-ness. She IS the best. HA. Oh, anyway Annie 姐姐 is my cousin in her early 30s, a stunning intellectual pychologist, an ex-SAF overseas scholarship holder who spent her uni years in UK, and currently engaged to a pilot. She bought a condominium after she came back from her studies about 6 years ago, and has been staying on her own ever since as she's too used to her independent life. So cool. And another of my cousins, in his late 20s, just bought a Porche recently. All my cousins are damn cool ok.

And ya, back to my apartment, I need to start saving money when I get a job. haha ya and I haven't even start looking for a job yet.

So my apartment...I hope that I can get a condominium.



I love the facilities that come with the apartment. I guess when you are unmarried with no husband or kids to fuss over, no loadsa household chores that come with a family to do, you will probably be damn free. Especially if all your friends are married and busy with their own lives. So the facilities will come in handy.

A swimming pool will be excellent...a great way to keep fit and relax...cool to lie on one of those beach chairs at the side of the pool and get a tan too...


I hope that the gym will have a neat set of machines too, to keep me in a mean shape...30s and lumpy is a big NO-NO. People look at you, shake their heads and think, no wonder you are not married. 30s and having a body like a 20 odd-yr-old, people look at you and wonder why you are still single. HA.

And the interior of my apartment will be designed and decorated the way I like and want. Provided that I can afford it. I am a person with plenty of ideas, so many in fact that I often find it hard to settle just for one. Sometimes I think maybe it'll be cool if my home can be mod-chic, like perhaps in black and white for the entire interior design. Sometimes I find that idea bored, and think perhaps red and black would be a more dashing and happening combo. Sometimes I think maybe it's not so good to have the entire house looking so up-beat and perhaps a natural theme would be more suitable. Ahhh whatever. As long as it's cosy. It's my home afterall.


If I'm ever filthy rich, it could be the black and white theme for Jan, the fluffy pink theme for Feb since V-day falls in that month, the Jungle and Tarzan theme for March, the Hawaii beach theme for April, the Midas touch theme for May, the black and red theme for June, the Zen theme for July, the white and red theme for Aug (National Day!), the Futuristic theme for Oct, the retro theme for Nov and lastly, the hop-hop bling bling theme for Dec. And the entire cycle starts all over every year, if I don't have any more new ideas, that is.


And oh ya, if my apartment can have a lovely view from the balcony, that would be the BEST! hahah~

The most important part of the apartment would be the bedroom cause it's the place to rest one's mind and also body and the ambience is especially vital! Of cause, the living room is important too cause I love to watch TV and vcds, so I would just need a huge plasma TV screen with a Dhoby surround sound system. Quite simple what. HA.

So anyway for my bedroom, I want a huge bed for me to flip and toss whenever I have problems sleeping, without worries of falling off the bed. And I like pretty Aussino bed sheets too! Woohoo.

And ya, I'm fussy about the bathroom too. How good if I can get at least a bath tub! How cool and relaxing to indulge in a bubble bath every other day! Oh how expensive would my bills be! Ahh off track. But anyway a jacuzzi would be the most ideal la. hahahah. I must be dreaming.


If I've a jacuzzi, my friends can even join in! haha~




I can hold parties and dinners at home and invite my friends over. That should be fun.



Should I keep a cat? Eh I dunno leh. I love cats. But I know nuts about keeping one. I dunno if I would be willing to spend time on it when I could be doing other stuff. Like a bubble bath. Hmm...

Anyway don't think that I wanna move out in the future cause I'm not getting along well with my parents or my sisters. Our current flat is small and messy but all 5 of us enjoy each other's company. And despite all differences, we have managed to tolerate, if not resolve, them and we are not even close to tearing each other's throat yet. I love them and they love me. And I wanna take care of them till I die. But I don't wanna be tied to my mum's apron strings all my life. Hell, even though my mum doesn't even have an apron in the first place. But you get what I mean. I wanna understand how it's like to be alone. Because we are all alone anyway. No one can stay by your side forever. Even if I would scurry home after just one month of staying on my own, unable to stand the loneliness, let me be. At least I've tried and experienced.

 

  十万个"为什么"。

My tuition kid, lets just call him Ah-boy, loves to ask me questions. He thinks I'm a walking encyclopedia.

"老师,老师,为什么人是猴子变成的?"

"老师,老师,有些 plants 吃 insects leh...可以 meh? Eeeks so disgusting!"

"老师,老师,什么是 Shang City? " (Cos he has been watching that "迷云二十天")

老师,老师,老师,老师,老师,老师,老师 !!! That's what I hear throughout each session of tuition. Most of the time, if I can, I'll try to answer his questions. Sometimes I couldn't cause either it's too complicated for him to comprehend even if I try to explain to him, or I do not have the answer. 老师不是什么都懂的!

Recently he's been asking me this question which I'm having difficulty answering: 你长大后要做什么?

Walau, damn hard leh.

I know what he's thinking. If I didn't remember wrongly, when we were at this age too, teachers were always asking us to write compositions on our ambitions, draw pictures titled "What I want to be when I grow up". Then everyone would want to be nurses /teachers /doctors /policemen /lawyers blah blah blah. It's like everyone must have an ambition. Forced to have one. I mean, I understand the 用意 of the teachers. They want the future of the society, the children, to have dreams to work towards to. And so, the idea of the "need" to have an ambition is firmly ironed onto the brain of my Ah-boy, probably just like any other primary school kid.

How am I supposed to explain to him that things are not so simple? How many of us out there really pursue the ambition that you had when you were young? Become doctors just because you wrote down in your p5 composition that you wanted to be one when you grew up? Man, I can't even remember what my "ambition" was supposed to be when I was in primary school.

Interests change. That's one factor. A decade is an awfully long period of time for anyone to have changes in interests. Moreover, it's not like if you want, you can. Along the way of pursuing one's ambition, one might meet many obstacles. Ultimately, you might not be able to get what you want. Life's not that easy and smooth. It's not like a vending machine: you put it hard work, you get what you want. Man, sometimes vending machines might run out of your fave drink! I know of tons of people who wanted to be doctors, but how many of them are doctors now? I barely need both hands to count.

But how am I supposed to explain to Ah-boy? He'll probably just look at me and say firmly, "No, I WILL be a policeman in the future." He cannot understand at this tender age of 10 that when you grow up, things change and you change. And for me, it's even harder cos how am I going to tell him that I don't have any bloody ambition. He will probably just look at me and think that I'm pathetic.

Pathetic? HA. Ok, I admit that I never have much plans for the future. I don't like to plan cause I think that too much planning often leads to disappointment as things don't always go your way. Besides sometimes your life depends on Lady Luck. Some people get promoted because their bosses got killed in a plane crash. Some people miss the chance of a promotion because they died in a plane crash. Life is unpredictable and often not under our control. So I don't go into the details of the plan but I do have the gist. The rest I'll 随缘. Besides the grand plan of my life is just to aim to be happy. A simple 5-letter word that even my Ah-boy with his Band 3 English standard can spell, but to have him truly understand it will need at least at least 10 more years of wisdom and experience. I don't need any damn ambition; if I wanna work, it just needs to be something that I enjoy cause I don't wanna suffer for money that's supposed to make my life easier and happier when it's not.

*sigh* See. So complicated. How to explain to a 10-year-old.
 



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